Holy Shit, That's Me
This book is about the patterns we don’t mean to keep.
Through real stories, humor, and a lot of honest self-observation, Kelly Blakey shines a light on the weird, familiar things we all do—and how awareness without shame can change everything.
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I’ve been all the parts.
The hero. The victim. The villain.
For more than thirty years, I’ve studied the patterns beneath how people think, feel, relate, protect themselves, and change—in the people I’ve worked with and in myself.
If you understand what you’re doing and still end up in the same place, that’s the question I’ve spent my life exploring.
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I’m Kelly Blakey
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I’ve misunderstood people I loved. I’ve tried to fix things that weren’t mine to fix. I’ve known better and repeated the pattern anyway.
Those experiences changed the way I sit with people.
I don’t expect you to arrive with perfect words or have everything figured out. I’ll listen carefully, explain how the process works, and help us begin with what feels most important to you.
More than 10,000 sessions since 2015. Before that, a BA in Psychology, a Master’s in Social Work, and a career spent sitting with people through difficult and transformative moments.
You Can Understand a Pattern and Still Repeat It
Awareness matters, but awareness isn’t always the endpoint.
New understanding has to be available when life is actually happening—when you’re upset, afraid, ashamed, overwhelmed, or pulled toward the familiar response.
The Human Development Framework is the growing foundation beneath my work. It looks at what a person might be protecting, what a response once helped them manage, what has changed since, and what capacity may still need to grow.
Not to excuse harmful behavior, and not to tell you who you are—just to make a fuller picture available so a different choice may become possible.
This May Be a Fit If…
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You keep landing in the same place and can’t work out why.
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You understand yourself well, but understanding hasn’t been enough.
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Something feels stuck, even though you can’t clearly name it.
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The same reactions keep appearing in different relationships or situations.
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You’ve done other personal work and want to explore the concern from a different angle.
This May Not Be Your First Step If…
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You’re currently experiencing a mental-health crisis.
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You have new, severe, persistent, or worsening physical or emotional symptoms.
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You’re looking for something to replace medical care, mental-health treatment, or other qualified professional support.
In those situations, please begin with the appropriate medical or mental-health support. If you’re in the United States and experiencing a crisis, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Outside the United States, contact your local crisis service or emergency services.
Where to Start
Work With Me
You bring what’s bothering you—the reaction you can’t explain, the pattern that keeps returning, or the concern that hasn’t moved.
You don’t need to know which method is right before contacting me. We begin with what feels most important, and the first conversation is free.
Emotion Code®, Body Code™, and Belief Code® sessions are available.
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Read the Book
Recognize familiar human patterns through honest stories, practical insight, and language that helps you say:
“That’s what I’ve been doing.”
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The Human Development Library — Opening Soon
A growing place for questions that arise in real life:
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Relationships and boundaries
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Reactions and choices
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Communication and change
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Patterns you recognize but don’t know how to interrupt
The Library will offer practical guidance for understanding what might be happening and considering what to do next.
What It’s Like to Work With Me
You Don’t Have to Tell the Whole Story to Begin
Some people talk throughout the session. Others share very little. There’s no single right way to do this work.
If something hurts, I don’t need you to prove it.
If something feels heavy, I don’t need you to justify it.
We begin where you are and move through the process one step at a time.
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What to Expect
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Sessions are 45 minutes.
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Usually by phone. Zoom when needed, in person by arrangement. I work with people all over the world.
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No special preparation is required.
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You’ll receive written notes after each session.
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Some people come once. Others return when another concern feels ready to explore.
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Holy Shit, That’s Me
This book is about the patterns we don’t mean to keep.
Through real stories, humor, and honest self-observation, I shine a light on the weird, familiar things we all do—and how awareness without shame can change everything.
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What Clients Say
Conni C.
“What sets Kelly apart is her compassion, professionalism, and genuine care for your well-being. The session felt like a safe space—calm and supportive. She explained everything clearly.”
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Meredith W.
“Kelly is amazing and easy to work with! She is kind, compassionate, and understanding.”
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Leiah B.
“My session with Kelly was absolutely delightful. I loved her intuitive understanding of my being and her recognition of my patterns.”
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These are individual experiences. Results vary.
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You Don’t Have to Decide Everything Before You Reach Out
You might know exactly what you want to explore. You might only know that something doesn’t feel settled.
A free 15-minute conversation gives us somewhere to begin. We can talk about what’s going on, answer your questions, and decide together whether one of my services feels like an appropriate next step.
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Important Notice
These are complementary wellness services. They aren’t intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent medical or psychological conditions, and they aren’t a substitute for medical, mental-health, or other qualified professional care.
If you’re in the United States and experiencing a crisis, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Outside the United States, contact your local crisis service or emergency services.